(2.5 minute read) I’m no Grinch, but I must admit that some might consider me a curmudgeon when it comes to holidays. I can’t tell you why, but I just don’t feel the need to make a big deal out of them, not even birthdays. While I admire those who decorate their house for every occasion, and have special plates and napkins, this simply is not in my dna. I know how I feel inside about the true meaning behind each holiday and to me that’s what’s important. As I started writing (and thinking) about this, it occured to me that my stance on this is similar to posting on social media. I do not subscribe to the idea that I need to broadcast, or prove that I have love, happiness and success in my life – my personal highlight reel. That is not to say I don’t enjoy scrolling and seeing what others choose to share with the world. In fact, I actually love seeing the celebrations, milestones, and achievements, and the pure joy on people’s faces. I admire how much people have grown / changed and yes, even those who aged. I even appreciate learning of sad news as I then keep those people in my thoughts and prayers.
I’ll be honest, while it’s mind-blowing to me that people choose to spend so much time on social media, it’s equally as baffling that people put so much effort and energy on holidays-whether big or small, real or fake. And by fake I mean the hallmark-celebrations, like the upcoming Valentine’s Day.
I am totally comfortable with my lack of excitement and choice to have an understated Valentine’s celebration. However, with each passing holiday, I get the sense that my daughters feel cheated. As I hear it, people are often showered with love… everything from special posts with photo and video montages, to elaborate gifts. Of course every kid loves gifts. But for my girls, I don’t think that it’s just about presents. I think they want me to be more like other moms in this way. So even though it’s not my thing to acknowledge the holidays in these ways, I decided there’s no harm in celebrating. And what better holiday to kick off showing my love than Valentine’s Day? It’s not going to be easy to take a step back and challenge my own perspective, but I believe that with the right mindset and some practice, I can get there.
I also decided that if I am really doing this, I am going to do it right and show love to everyone I am grateful to have in my life. Valentine’s Day doesn’t only have to be about romantic partners and children.
Here are 4 Simple Ideas that Express Love & Gratitude this Valentine’s Day.
1- Sticky Note Surprise:
Surprise anyone you love by writing on sticky notes why you are grateful to have that person in your life. Put them someplace unexpected, like in a book or a school/work bag or even on the bathroom mirror. Have a lot to say? Make a heart out of all the stickies you wrote.
2- Holiday Balloon Pit:
Cover the floor of a room in your house (or someone else’s) with pink and red balloons. It’s cheap, easy, and festive. And it makes for great photos.
3- Get Crafty in the Kitchen:
Maybe someone you know loves a specific food, or a dish you make. Why not prepare it and share it with her. You don’t have to eat it with her. Just knowing that you made something she loves will make you both feel good.
4- Bonding Time:
Watch your loved ones favorite movie with them or rock out to their fave song. Have a picnic under the stars or a campfire in your own home. You don’t have to do it on February 14th but on that day you can discuss and plan your special time.Share: